Check!

So my last two dates (the one tonite included) this issue has come up. And I wonder if this is common and whats the deal.

The check comes to the table and the guy grabs the bill. I ask if I can give anything towards it and they say "If you want to"

If you want to?!?! What does that even mean? So I feel like I should, and hand over $10 or so, whatever is in my wallet. And then the guy goes, "you really didn't have to"

Okay, if I didn't have to, say that upfront. I feel like its a lose lose situation. If I don't give anything I look cheap, but if I give something I dont look interested in the guy. What a conundrum...